Mission Musing for May 2025
Mentoring Mother
With Mother’s Day in May, it has me thinking that not everyone is fortunate to have a good Maternal role model in their lives. It could be for various reasons, perhaps the mother died at childbirth, maybe she herself was never taught how to be a mother, or maybe a mental illness or addiction deprived her of caring for her little ones. There are lots of examples where life choices and poor circumstances have kept a woman from being a mentor to her family.
Then there are those, including myself, who are blessed with a mother who loved, cared and trained up their children in the love of Christ Jesus and provided for all their needs each day. No, they are by no means perfect, but they worked diligently to be a mother who was available, nurturing, and willing to offer a guiding hand for their kids. What a stark contrast between this type of mother and one who was unable to be present, for whatever reason.
So, my question is, what can you do for a mom who is struggling? If she was never taught, or is young and in need of help, what can you do? “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” (Proverbs11:14) When a mother has a group of seasoned women to offer Godly advice or support through prayer and self-care such as providing meals, babysitting, and conversations. The mother then sees and experiences the love that she needs to continue and grow as a mother herself. Those “mentoring moms” are providing guidance and safety for her, so she in turn can do that for her family.
Encouragement goes a long way. I tend to take things and “run” with them, or just plain “take over” and do it myself. I need to learn that my place isn’t always to do it, but to teach or encourage mothers so they can do things for their children and families themselves. This Bible verse from (1 Thessalonians 5:11) comes to mind, “Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing”. When this happens, my prayer is this Dear Father, forgive me for being a control freak! Help me to serve in a manner that is inviting and helpful and not demeaning and discouraging. Show me how I can be of service to my fellow mothers. Amen.
As a Christian mother the most important thing is to “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6) “Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward.” (Psalm 127: 3) When we know the great gift a child is, we seek to tend to the needs of all children, whether they are our own or not. Maybe you are not a mother, but you are an aunt or church grandma to children there. Maybe you are the one they look for each Sunday as you bring them treats, encouragement, a hug, or even accolades of praise for something they have done. Whatever mentoring you are doing, keep it up. Tend the flock in which the Lord has given you to “shepherd”, whether they are your own or another’s. You can mentor mothers, children or both! Who is God calling you to mentor?
Dear Lord, thank You for our mothers, they gave us life; help us to use it to Your glory. Bless each mother and child as they grow together. Help women to encourage one another and to support mothers with children through their words and actions. Forgive our sinful thoughts and help us to seek Your good and gracious will for our lives. May we lift one another up to You in prayer each day. We pray that all women may find joy from the children in their lives. We ask this in the name of Jesus, our Savior. Amen.
Debra Albers
VP of Christian Life 2024-2028